Comments for love, loss, and rainbows http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com Just another WordPress.com weblog Fri, 04 Dec 2009 23:42:41 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on so, whatcha buying? by cat eye « love, loss, and rainbows http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/2009/12/02/so-whatcha-buying/#comment-954 cat eye « love, loss, and rainbows Fri, 04 Dec 2009 23:42:41 +0000 http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/?p=1494#comment-954 [...] 4, 2009 by thisbumpyjourney So, seeing as nobody else feels like talking about shopping so much (…ahem…) how about some brilliant and adorable baby footage? Everybody loves [...] [...] 4, 2009 by thisbumpyjourney So, seeing as nobody else feels like talking about shopping so much (…ahem…) how about some brilliant and adorable baby footage? Everybody loves [...]

]]> Comment on Thanksgiving by Leah http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/2009/11/26/thanksgiving/#comment-952 Leah Wed, 02 Dec 2009 16:38:54 +0000 http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/?p=1471#comment-952 Thank you. You really have no idea how much I appreciate it. It's really a lot of help. And I'll be here to read what you share about your wonderful Rainbow. Thank you. You really have no idea how much I appreciate it. It’s really a lot of help. And I’ll be here to read what you share about your wonderful Rainbow.

]]> Comment on Thanksgiving by thisbumpyjourney http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/2009/11/26/thanksgiving/#comment-951 thisbumpyjourney Wed, 02 Dec 2009 14:22:38 +0000 http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/?p=1471#comment-951 Oh, Leah, I know. I'm so sorry; sometimes it just seems impossibly hard. I'm thinking of you this morning and hoping this day is as gentle as it can be. I wanted to suggest that you check out the compassionate friends site if you haven't already: http://www.compassionatefriends.org/home.aspx Go to online support community and register, and then you can chat in their grief rooms. The Bereaved Under Two Years room was a LIFELINE for me soon after Ward's accident. It can be so helpful to chat live with people who are feeling what you are feeling. Some people swear by live-and-in-person support groups that TCF has all over the country, so you may like that, but I never felt up to actually leaving the house to go to those, so I wouldn't know. Also, the Miss Foundation is wonderful: http://missfoundation.org/ Their forums are not live chat (although occasionally they do have live chat) but it's an active board and you will also get great support there. And Glow in the Woods is wonderful as well: http://www.glowinthewoods.com/ You will find some thought-provoking and talented writing about grieving a child there, and the comment boards are active there as well. And please also know that I look forward to hearing from you here as well, and would love to read anything you would like to share about your sweet nephew. Oh, Leah, I know. I’m so sorry; sometimes it just seems impossibly hard. I’m thinking of you this morning and hoping this day is as gentle as it can be.

I wanted to suggest that you check out the compassionate friends site if you haven’t already: http://www.compassionatefriends.org/home.aspx

Go to online support community and register, and then you can chat in their grief rooms. The Bereaved Under Two Years room was a LIFELINE for me soon after Ward’s accident. It can be so helpful to chat live with people who are feeling what you are feeling. Some people swear by live-and-in-person support groups that TCF has all over the country, so you may like that, but I never felt up to actually leaving the house to go to those, so I wouldn’t know.

Also, the Miss Foundation is wonderful:
http://missfoundation.org/

Their forums are not live chat (although occasionally they do have live chat) but it’s an active board and you will also get great support there.

And Glow in the Woods is wonderful as well:
http://www.glowinthewoods.com/

You will find some thought-provoking and talented writing about grieving a child there, and the comment boards are active there as well.

And please also know that I look forward to hearing from you here as well, and would love to read anything you would like to share about your sweet nephew.

]]> Comment on Thanksgiving by Jane http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/2009/11/26/thanksgiving/#comment-949 Jane Mon, 30 Nov 2009 19:57:08 +0000 http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/?p=1471#comment-949 Yes. Yes.

]]> Comment on new do by Debbie http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/2009/11/29/new-do/#comment-948 Debbie Mon, 30 Nov 2009 18:23:38 +0000 http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/?p=1483#comment-948 Great bangs, good pic. Great bangs, good pic.

]]> Comment on Thanksgiving by Leah http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/2009/11/26/thanksgiving/#comment-947 Leah Sun, 29 Nov 2009 06:58:17 +0000 http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/?p=1471#comment-947 Thank you very much. I'm sorry I'm going through this too. I never imagined it was possible to experience this pain, and O don't wish it even to my worst enemy. I haven't been able to completely wrasp my head around all of it. I mean I just can't accept that I'm not going to be able to hear his laugh again, or to get him in my arms and to feel his head on my shoulder and breathe in his smell or kiss him in the top of his head or listen to him calling me Lee-Lee with his little voice or watch him sleeping and wonder what he's dreaming about. All of this is so earth-shattering and painful that I can't yet understand it. But I think is getting less worse each day, and I hope the time comes when it stops hurting this way. And thank you for your words I am getting comfort from the people I love. I'm sure without them I wouldn't be able to live past through this. Thank you very much. I’m sorry I’m going through this too. I never imagined it was possible to experience this pain, and O don’t wish it even to my worst enemy. I haven’t been able to completely wrasp my head around all of it. I mean I just can’t accept that I’m not going to be able to hear his laugh again, or to get him in my arms and to feel his head on my shoulder and breathe in his smell or kiss him in the top of his head or listen to him calling me Lee-Lee with his little voice or watch him sleeping and wonder what he’s dreaming about. All of this is so earth-shattering and painful that I can’t yet understand it. But I think is getting less worse each day, and I hope the time comes when it stops hurting this way. And thank you for your words I am getting comfort from the people I love. I’m sure without them I wouldn’t be able to live past through this.

]]> Comment on new do by skye http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/2009/11/29/new-do/#comment-946 skye Sun, 29 Nov 2009 05:16:45 +0000 http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/?p=1483#comment-946 left out bangs! I totally dig the bangs! left out bangs! I totally dig the bangs!

]]> Comment on new do by skye http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/2009/11/29/new-do/#comment-945 skye Sun, 29 Nov 2009 05:14:58 +0000 http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/?p=1483#comment-945 I totally dig!!!!!!! I totally dig!!!!!!!

]]> Comment on Thanksgiving by thisbumpyjourney http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/2009/11/26/thanksgiving/#comment-944 thisbumpyjourney Sun, 29 Nov 2009 02:14:22 +0000 http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/?p=1471#comment-944 Leah, I am so sorry it's taken me a couple of days to respond to you. I've been dealing with a ear infection and have been kind of out of sorts, but you have been in my thoughts. I just don't know what to say. That is so devastating. I hope that your Thanksgiving was as good as it could be, and I hope your Christmas is the same. I remember how raw and hard the first months and year were after Ward's accident; I am so very sorry you have this pain right now. I hope you feel your nephew and sister close during the holidays and I hope you find some comfort wherever you can. I was just talking about the Shack with some women the other day. It's funny what sticks out in it for people. My very favorite chapter was when they were cooking in the kitchen and dropped the bowl and made a mess, but they laughed about it and didn't complain about the dessert they weren't going to have. I should read it again. There were parts that really touched me. And thank you, Kate. So many of your posts are so moving for me. I don't always comment (I'm often crying) but that definitely doesn't mean I'm not reading. I love your blog. Which reminds me - I need to try again to do the blogroll thing on this blog. I gave it a half-hearted attempt when I first started, but I couldn't get it to work out. Leah, I am so sorry it’s taken me a couple of days to respond to you. I’ve been dealing with a ear infection and have been kind of out of sorts, but you have been in my thoughts. I just don’t know what to say. That is so devastating. I hope that your Thanksgiving was as good as it could be, and I hope your Christmas is the same. I remember how raw and hard the first months and year were after Ward’s accident; I am so very sorry you have this pain right now. I hope you feel your nephew and sister close during the holidays and I hope you find some comfort wherever you can.

I was just talking about the Shack with some women the other day. It’s funny what sticks out in it for people. My very favorite chapter was when they were cooking in the kitchen and dropped the bowl and made a mess, but they laughed about it and didn’t complain about the dessert they weren’t going to have. I should read it again. There were parts that really touched me.

And thank you, Kate. So many of your posts are so moving for me. I don’t always comment (I’m often crying) but that definitely doesn’t mean I’m not reading. I love your blog.

Which reminds me – I need to try again to do the blogroll thing on this blog. I gave it a half-hearted attempt when I first started, but I couldn’t get it to work out.

]]> Comment on Thanksgiving by sweetsalty kate http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/2009/11/26/thanksgiving/#comment-942 sweetsalty kate Thu, 26 Nov 2009 04:45:23 +0000 http://thisbumpyjourney.wordpress.com/?p=1471#comment-942 Oh, oh. Just sighing. This was .. perfect. Yes. xo Oh, oh. Just sighing. This was .. perfect. Yes. xo

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