blender

Before the adoption education stuff we had to do, I had always thought that blended families were of mixed race, or else what happened when two families were brought together through the parents’ second (or third, or whathaveyou) marriage, like the Brady Bunch.
And I still think those assumptions are correct, but we learned that blended [...]

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appearances

It was funny (not really ha-ha funny) that when we were getting medical help to try to get pregnant, a couple of members of the medical team let slip that they assumed we were in a second marriage. Apparently it’s somewhat common for couples in a second marriage to need reproductive assistance to get [...]

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adoption list link

I was just eating some marginally stale birthday cake and having a spot of tea after I got Rainbow down for a nap, and came upon this list of adoptive hotbutton questions.
It’s pretty good, nothing tremendously earthshattering I guess (YES, we’ve heard about all of them, unfortunately) but I thought it was interesting that the [...]

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a possible severance

A deep exhale:
Whooooosh.
My last card to F was returned to sender, the social worker reports.
And she has been unable, the past couple of days, to get an email response from her.
Which might just mean that F moved and forgot to let the sw know, and that she’ll call her soon with the new contact info.
Or [...]

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my baby

I study his face all the time. I mostly see F’s features and smile, although sometimes a quirky little grin from J pops up. His default mood seems to be the same as what we saw in F: warm, open, interested, amused. He watches with raised eyebrows and a grin, tries out [...]

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musing

I sent F another short note yesterday. It’s a pretty easy habit I’m falling into; I write a short little update toward the end of the week, sometimes skipping a week, but it’s never more than two weeks between mail. And every 3-4 weeks, I mail both her and J a card with [...]

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It’s been a slightly blurry week

yet all is well.
Rockinrolla is feeling great. He was deeply annoyed that he couldn’t go outside and play on Wednesday, and we sent him back to school on Thursday. When I suggested that he might want to consider skipping the two hour basketball practice yesterday afternoon, you’d have thought I suggested he forgo [...]

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dropping the ball

The scene: Mama Jamz and Rainbow are in a downtown shop. A casual friend, with whom we are on very good, warm terms, is talking to MJ. Let’s listen in, shall we…?
Friend: (goo-gooing and generally admiring Rainbow) You know, I’m going to have to take back what I was saying just earlier today. I had [...]

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sweet little early morning daydream

Not sure if this counts as dream journaling – not sure what this qualifies as: a daydream that got legs and ran with it, in a really vivid way? This would be at about 3am this morning, after Rainbow finally settled down after his bottle, when I was drifting off but not technically asleep, [...]

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Mama Goat

Behind the Great Big Wooden Playground at the recreation center in our county seat, there is a little wooden bridge that leads to the walking trail.  In between the bridge and the walking trail, there are countless limestone boulders sunken into the ground.  Some are enormous, some are just your basic rocks, and many have super-cool waterworn [...]

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